Are you wanting more success with women and wondering how you can make it happen? Following in this article are some simple but effective strategies that you can start using straight away.
One of the common mistakes that guys make is that they end up being weak and letting girls walk all over them. Now don’t get me wrong, you should pay all due respect, but if you are one of those guys that constantly keeps phoning her up, sending text messages and declaring your undying love, it actually wears a bit thin after a while, even though you might think differently and not see the logic in it. Suprisingly it can actually turn girls off and make them think less of you, there is definitely something to be said for the ‘treat em mean, keep em keen’ mentality, to a certain degree anyway.
Knowing when to shut up and listen is also going to get you a long way, females like talking endlessly about themselves so be a good potential partner and listen up! It will work wonders for you, and try not in interrupt them too many times. Give her your full attention as well, girls don’t want to see you looking out into space or at other girls if they are talking to you, focus only on her and you will do well.
Getting a girl to like you can easily be done by using some NLP techniques in rapport building. This is an unconscious thing that all humans adhere to….we like people like us. One of the things you can do to build rapport subtlety is to use similar body language gestures that she uses. Maybe she is sitting with legs crossed, you could do the same, or if she has arms folded you could slowly move over time to mimic her position. You can also pace her speech, so if she is talking really slow and soft you can do the same. You can get better with this the more you do it, but start off slow as you don’t want her to pick up consciously that you are copying her, or she may feel uneasy and the conversation may not go well.
One of the biggest problems that you should be able to avoid fairly easily is that of becoming a friend. If she sees you as a friend, it can actually be very difficult to get out of that category so do your best to stay out of that category, do what you can to get the message across that you are interested in more than just friends. Use body language, words and actions to make her realise that you actually ‘fancy’ her and not just like her as a friend.
However you don’t need you use this as an excuse to get her under the duvet at the earliest opportunity, that will come later, when she INVITES you.
These are basic ideas you can start using immediately, for lots more comprehensive guidance have a look at our resource page.
